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As women, when we’re children we’re taught to enter the world with big hearts. Blooming hearts. Hearts bigger than our damn fists. We are taught to forgive - constantly - as opposed to what young boys are taught: Revenge, to get ‘even.’ Our empathy is constantly made appeals to, often demanded for. If we refuse to show kindness, we are reprimanded. We are not good women if we do not crush our bones to make more space for the world, if we do not spread our entire skin over rocks for others to tread on, if we do not kill ourselves in every meaning of the word in the process of making it cozy for everyone else. It is the heat generated by the burning of our bodies with which the world keeps warm. We are taught to sacrifice so much for so little. This is the general principle all over the world.

By the time we are young women, we are tired. Most of us are drained. Some of us enter a lock of silence because of that lethargy. Some of us lash out. When I think of that big, blooming heart we once had, it looks shriveled and worn out now. When I was teaching, I had a young student named Mariam. She was only 11 years old. Some boy pushed her around in class, called her names, broke her spirit for the day. We were sitting under a chestnut tree on a field trip and she asked me if a boy ever hurt me. I told her many did and I destroyed them one by one. I think that’s the first time she ever heard the word ‘destroyed.’ We rarely teach our girls to fight back for the right reasons.

Take up more space as a woman. Take up more time. Take your time. You are taught to hide, censor, move about without messing up decorum for a man’s comfort. Whether it’s said or not, you’re taught balance. Forget that. Displease. Disappoint. Destroy. Be loud, be righteous, be messy. Mess up and it’s fine – you are learning to unlearn. Do not see yourself like glass. Like you could get dirty and clean. You are flesh. You are not constant. You change. Society teaches women to maintain balance and that robs us of our volatility. Our mercurial hearts. Calm and chaos. Love only when needed; preserve otherwise.

Do not be a moth near the light; be the light itself. Do not let a man’s ocean-big ego swallow you up. Know what you want. Ask yourself first. Decide your own pace. Decide your own path. Be cruel when needed. Be gentle only when needed. Collapse and then re-construct. When someone says you are being obscene, say yes I am. When they say you are being wrong, say yes I am. When they say you are being selfish, say yes I am. Why shouldn’t I be? How do you expect a woman to stand on her two feet if you keep striking her at the ankles.

There are multiple lessons we must teach our young girls so that they render themselves their own pillars instead of keeping male approval as the focal point of their lives. It is so important to state your feelings of inconvenience as a woman. We are instructed to tailor ourselves and our discomfort - constantly told that we are ‘whining’ and ‘nagging’ and ‘complaining too much.’ That kind of silence is horribly violent, that kind of insistence upon uniformly nodding in agreement to your own despair, and smiling emptily so no man is ever uncomfortable around us. Male-entitlement dictates a woman’s silence. If we could see the mimetic model of the erasure of a woman’s voice, it would be an incredibly bloody sight.

On a breezy July night, my mother and I were sleeping under the open sky. Before dozing off, I told her that I think there is a special place in heaven where all wounded women bury their broken hearts and their hearts grow into trees that only give fruit to the good and poison to the bad. She smiled and said Ameen. Then she closed her eyes.

A Woman of War by Mehreen Kasana (via randomactsofchaos)

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And I don’t think they’re getting to it in History of Magic. “If you think Voldemort’s evil…this fuckin’ guy.” - Kumail Nanjiani (x)

love-at-first-vibe:

blackamazon:

abstrackafricana:

”The state is currently spending five times more for the education for a white child than it is fitting to educate a colored child. That means better textbooks for that child than for that child. I say that’s a shame, but my opponent says today is not the day for whites and coloreds to go to the same college. To share the same campus. To walk into the same classroom. Well, would you kindly tell me when that day is gonna come? Is it going to come tomorrow? Is it going to come next week? In a hundred years? Never? No, the time for justice, the time for freedom, and the time for equality is always, is always right now!”

wifed up.

The fact she’s not on The same lists as Emma Stone, Emily Blunt and Anne hathaway is all I need to know about Hollywood

^^^^

ladyfabulous:

blueandbluer:

dancejahd:

charlibal:

😍😍😍😍

This man is seriously a paragon.

Not fair

It’s rare to see women in a film who are not somehow validated by a male, or discussing a male, or heartbroken by a male, or end up being happy because of a male. It’s interesting to think about, and it’s very true. Of course men are a part of women’s lives, and that’s fine, but it’s important to see strong, independent women who are making their own choices and aren’t completely at the mercy of men. It shouldn’t be, ‘Oh, does this guy love me?’ It should be, ‘Do I love the guy?’
~ Dakota Fanning (via jumblejo)

agentturner:

What if the entire Dawn of Justice movie Diana is fighting the real villains while Clark and Bruce are fighting each other then at the end of the movie she breaks down the door at Clark’s apartment ties him up and drops him at Bruce’s door step like “Start being friends right now because I am tired of doing all this shit myself.” And that’s how the Justice League is formed 

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moniquill:

thatassholewhat:

moniquill:

jadenite:

thefingerfuckingfemalefury:

cheskamouse:

thehappysorceress:

Doc and Cap by Jesse Toves

I accept this head canon.
Update.
2015, Cap is still working out the Avengers, him an Tony have worked out a dynamic that actually works between them. but some new oddity has cropped up, they call in expert and in walks Dr.Jones… who has not aged.
Cap, stunned: “indiana?!… how?”
Indi, glad to see his old drinking buddy, “You know the grail myth?.. yea, not a myth.”

I would soooooooo read/watch a crossover story about Captain America and Indiana Jones teaming up for an adventure together :D

I keep getting stuck on the idea that they might not get anything done because they’d try to one-up each other in terms of on-the-fly plans and how many ridiculous ways they can defeat nazis.

Ok, this is fun and all, but do you REALLY think Captain America would approve of Indie’s blatant grave-robbing, theft and appropriation of grave goods and cultural artifacts? Like, Indiana Jones’ MO in his off time from fighting Nazis ‘This priceless cultural artifact belonging to indigenous people totally needs to be removed from its secure location and brought to an American Museum (so white people can enjoy it)

hm how about if that was the thing they seriously clashed on back then and now, decades later, indiana has learned better and is leading efforts to bring artifacts back to their countries of origin. steve helps

^ I support this headcanon.

moniquill:

thatassholewhat:

moniquill:

jadenite:

thefingerfuckingfemalefury:

cheskamouse:

thehappysorceress:

Doc and Cap by Jesse Toves

I accept this head canon.

Update.

2015, Cap is still working out the Avengers, him an Tony have worked out a dynamic that actually works between them. but some new oddity has cropped up, they call in expert and in walks Dr.Jones… who has not aged.

Cap, stunned: “indiana?!… how?”

Indi, glad to see his old drinking buddy, “You know the grail myth?.. yea, not a myth.”

I would soooooooo read/watch a crossover story about Captain America and Indiana Jones teaming up for an adventure together :D

I keep getting stuck on the idea that they might not get anything done because they’d try to one-up each other in terms of on-the-fly plans and how many ridiculous ways they can defeat nazis.

Ok, this is fun and all, but do you REALLY think Captain America would approve of Indie’s blatant grave-robbing, theft and appropriation of grave goods and cultural artifacts? Like, Indiana Jones’ MO in his off time from fighting Nazis ‘This priceless cultural artifact belonging to indigenous people totally needs to be removed from its secure location and brought to an American Museum (so white people can enjoy it)

hm how about if that was the thing they seriously clashed on back then and now, decades later, indiana has learned better and is leading efforts to bring artifacts back to their countries of origin. steve helps

^ I support this headcanon.

nitanahkohe:

Beyond the Shelter Doors, a short documentary on White Buffalo Calf Woman Society, is available for viewing on YouTube; I encourage all to learn more about the beautiful, courageous woman Tillie Black Bear was and the impacts she has made by watching the video.